Last Thursday, Mike and I went to my doctor for a 21 week scan. It was meant to be the last sonogram of the pregnancy. I didn't want unneeded scans and I made the appointment for Mike's spring recess so he could be with me, so he could see that little being kicking around one last time before seeing it in person in August. The sonogram tech made her measurements, chatted, and then left the room to show the doctor the pictures she gathered. Last time this happened, the doctor came in, shook my hand, and told me that all was well and he'd see me next time. Instead, last week, the doctor came in as he was putting his hands into a pair of gloves. He sat down and said he'd like to do the sonogram himself. I grabbed Mike and squeezed-doctors don't perform sonograms unless something is wrong.
Soon after we learned that our baby to be has bilateral club foot. Both of its feet are turned inward, nearly upside down on themselves. This time, as we watched on the screen and knew what we were looking for, it was clear. Little knees, little legs, and then two too-small feet stuck awkwardly at right angles to the ankles. Minutes later, in the doctor's office as we talked about the scan, I let a few tears fall. I imagined the casts and braces (in my mind, some polio-era contraption), of my baby never walking normally and of being in pain. All of which is dramatic and unrealistic-but the brain does strange things when confronted with such a surprise.
We met with a geneticist that afternoon and learned that 90% of club foot cases are isolated. Meaning, the only issue is the feet, which will be fixable and treatable (it seems braces have come a long way since the 1930's) and in most cases cured by the time the child starts to walk. But with that lingering 10%, that stubborn remainder, the feet are a sign of a greater genetic issue. A chromosomal defect. One in particular that could lead to a "question of viability outside the womb", and so we are now in the midst of a 10-14 day wait on the results of last Friday's amio*.
That first night, as I tried to think only positive thoughts, as Mike cheered me by looking up every professional athlete who was born with club feet (there are a lot), as we told ourselves that 90% is a huge number and we don't have anything to worry about, I wanted my Dad. It was a Thursday and I knew he was at his weekly gig. But, more than knowing he was just out of the house, he felt very far away in Mexico, and I let myself cry for the first time since hearing the news. In that moment, I wanted to feel like the kid, to be told what will be will be, but it will be alright either way. To be in the passenger seat on the BQE, stuck in traffic on the Kosciuszko. For the quiet moments in the car between my ramble and his words.
*A few days later our doctor sent us for a fetal echocardiogram to rule out any congenital heart abnormalities. The scan showed another "soft marker" for genetic issues, an echogenic focus on the heart, so the amnio should tell us more about that as well. Waiting. Waiting.
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