Wednesday, September 7, 2011

on a wedding graduate revisited

In March, my piece on loss and a wedding ran on A Practical Wedding.  Soon after I was emailing with Lauren, APW's assistant editor, and she asked if I would be willing to come back in a few months and write an update.  The update, a part of APW's "wedding graduate revisited" series will be going up today.  I am nervous and anxious sitting at the desk in the living room hitting refresh and waiting for it to appear.  Lauren asked for honest and I wrote honest.  But now I worry about what I might sound like to the readers out there who don't know me.  That I'll sound selfish for that line about mourning feeling like a setback.  Last night Mike was telling me not to worry, that honest is ok, that everyone feels things they don't like admitting.  That it's the truth, and the truth is worth sharing.

I just hit refresh and there is the photo of Erin at our wedding and my words below it.  Here's to sharing.


  1. honesty is where the heart is. honesty is where the strength is. honesty is where the love is when we use it as a pillar and not as an excuse.

    you touched my spirit with your writing. i hope you feel how big and wonderful your heart, strength and love is. one can only hope for a love as dynamic and lovely as yours and Mikes... you are living proof that TRUE love exists.

  2. Hi Caitlin, I just wanted to come over here after reading your piece earlier today on APW and let you know that I've been thinking about you and Mike all day. Is that weird coming from a stranger? I don't know what to say besides that. You wrote with such honesty that I felt that I stepped into your shoes for a short minute and I'm not sure how, yet, but it was good for me. Thank you for being so brave with your honesty!

  3. It was so, so good, dear! And I loved that you reminded people that they would have dealt with it too. I feel like all too often people imagine that when something hard happens they will curl up on the floor and fall apart. When really 90% of people will realize that you have to step up to the plate and keep going. And that is comforting, in it's own way, to know that you can do that.

    Sorry I'm so late to this! I've been sending good thoughts to you and Mike all month. xo